Of course I now know that my MIND is in control of how I feel and by generating feel good thoughts I can feel better...that being said...here are some additional hacks that I use when I am struggling.

I Clear out my brain...grab some scrap paper and get out the crap so  I can really see what is going on there in the first place. I then comfort myself as I would my children and recognize that all of these thoughts are optional.

Getting out into nature also helps me clear out my brain...even a 10 minute walk does wonders. 

A warm bath always lets my body relax and my brain to unwind.

Focusing on someone else and NOT ME also helps. Which of my kids needs to some extra help? How can I do something more for someone else today?

Finally...making sure I am getting enough sleep and enough exercise is huge! Make TIME FOR THIS!!!

Short and sweet today friends. Hope you find these tools helpful!

It is not your careers job

It is no your spouses job

It is not your friends job

And it is certainly not your kids job

This sounds kind of harsh

But it is true

And it is SUCH.GOOD.NEWS!

Who better than YOU to know what you like and what you want to do?!?

When we expect others to make us happy by:

Buying us the right gift

Helping with chores without asking

Planning a surprise get away

Saying nice things to us

We are often disappointed.

It is best to meet our own needs and stop trying to cajole or control those around us (This is exhausting...I may have tried!)

***I love coaching on this topic . So many of us people please to our own detriment and then get annoyed when others don't do the same for us. I can help you learn how to TAKE CARE OF YOU and feel better!

Do you ever feel this way?

That you are just surviving?

Do you ever think " is this really the life I worked so hard for?"

Do you ever think "my work/family is a circus or a $hitshow"

Do you ever think "I have to do it all"

Do you feel overwhelmed and think a weekend away is all you need to reset?

Or maybe if you just hired more help?

Or got more sleep?

Or got back on your Peloton?

Or ran a little more

that all would be well?!?!

Well friends...I have thought ALL of those things.

And I've tried ALL THE THINGS.

And then I often felt worse because I slipped back into Overwhelm...why was it so HARD FOR ME?!?

And then I found life coaching and dug in to do the mind work with my coach and I finally found internal peace and clarity like I've never had before....seriously.

***I became a certified life coach so I could help other MamaDocs overcome overwhelm for once and for all...to go from just surviving their lives to THRIVING in life. Please set up a free consult...

Perfectionism

Holds us back

Keeps us "safe"

It keeps us from putting things out into the world because of what "others" might say

or worse of all, what we will say about ourselves.

You know what?

I am over it.

Life is too short.

Do you know how much more fun life is and how much more I accomplish when I allow myself B- work ?!?

Yes, I'll have friends and family for dinner when my home is not pristine.

Yes, I'll try that new activity and be a fool and laugh about it.

Yes, I'll present a "good enough" talk to my co-workers so they can gain valuable information.

Try it my friends. You will feel SO much lighter.

The worst thing that can happen is a feeling...and we can all survive that!

***if this sounds too good to be true but you would really like it to be true...please set up a FREE consultation so we can see if coaching is right for you.

I think of Grace as self compassion.

Not only in our actions, but in our thoughts as well.

If you wouldn't say it to a friend then

DO NOT SAY IT TO YOURSELF!

We are human

We make mistakes

We are still 100% worthy

Be kind to yourself

Do not beat yourself up for tasks undone

Give yourself Grace

**The most amazing thing is that when you fill yourself with love, you have more to share with others.  If this is difficult for you, please reach out to me. 

Change is possible. I can help.

Did you know that the way we THINK about time matters more than anything!?

Isn't that wild? 

How some days "time flies" and how other days "time drags on".

This is something that I really enjoy coaching my clients on.  How we think about time even affects what we accomplish in a day...seriously! 

This was one of the best things that I've learned from coaching.  When I think " I don't have enough time" ...it turns out I don't .  When I think " I have time to get important things done" it seems to work out. So cool!

Another amazing TIME HACK is to really look at where we spend our time. We often bemoan we "don't have enough time" but we often end up frittering away time mindlessly.

A little challenge for the day...track your time and see if you can come up with just 5 minutes that might be "better spent"   .... just 5 minutes a day ends up being 30 HOURS IN A YEAR!  What would you do with that GIFT OF TIME?!

In the last year I have learned to be...

There are SO many things that I've learned in my coaching that  I want to share with you but will start with a few simple action items.

1. Get curious about what is going on in your brain!  WHY, you might ask?  Because the way we FEEL comes from what we are THINKING...not the circumstances around us.    This BLEW.MY.MIND.   Seriously. I had no idea that this is how the world worked.  I know many of you already know this but how many really take the time to explore what is going on in that magnificent brain of yours? By understanding what is going on in our brain on default , we can then become more intentional about how we want to think and feel. First step is get curious...do a thought download and empty out all the thoughts in your head.
2. Use the amazing power of your prefrontal cortex and start deciding ahead of time.  When we "go with the flow" we make reactive decisions and our primitive (or I like to say toddler brain) likes to...

Anyone who has worked with a life coach can tell you how life changing it can be.

Coaching allows you to find the root cause of "issues" that may be holding you back and helps you see your blind-spots in a loving, non-judgemental way. Many anecdotal stories will support the benefit of working with a life coach...but of course in medicine we like to see the FACTS!

And studies now back this up.  A JAMA article in August 2019 showed a positive effect of Professional Coaching Intervention on the well being and distress of physicians in a randomized clinical trial.

I am so grateful to be a part of this;  I really enjoy helping "heal the healers".   Physician Wellness has been a passion for me for years and now I have powerful coaching tools that help MamaDocs feel better.

*** if you'd like to learn more about coaching,  please set up a Free Consultation today!

As a life coach, one of my favorite things is to teach people how to "feel the feels"!  What does this mean?  I teach you to explore and describe how a feeling vibrates in your body.  

 What is the point of this?

We spend SO MUCH TIME in our lives trying to avoid feelings!  We avoid/buffer with shopping, eating, drinking, netflix, scrolling on social media.
We also resist and react to our emotions. 

I teach you to ALLOW the emotions...to actually FEEL the uncomfortable vibrations.

• frustration
• embarrassment
• inadequacy
• shame
• confusion
• anger
• doubt

and on and on!


WHY???

Because it teaches you that the worst thing that can happen is a feeling, a vibration that is felt in different areas of your body...and we can survive that. Even if it feels uncomfortable, it goes away after awhile.  We avoid doing so many things in life because we are afraid of the feeling!

 Once you learn this strategy, your life will get better! No joke!

You set bigger goals

You take...

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

I have to admit...this is something that I only recently started doing.

Why?   Because I thought life really would be better when I arrived THERE...wherever "there"  was!

• vacation destination
• graduation from medical school
• completing residency
• becoming a mom
• when kids are out of diapers
• when kids can help pick up
  
   You get the idea.  What I've learned through life coaching and now truly believe....it is NOT really better THERE!  Life is 50/50....50% awesome and 50% not so awesome.....no matter what!  
  
  So we might as well enjoy the journey! Life is so much more joy filled when we actually enjoy the moment and are not hoping for something better THERE!
  
  I now make this decision regularly...and do you know what...it is SO MUCH FUN!
  
  I invite you to do the same.
  
  Reach out if this is tough for you...I'd love to help!